Dating a Christian single : rules

Posted on August 7, 2011 by kevinz

Being a Christian single in the dating world and wanting to follow the rules set by God before us can be quite a daunting challenge. It is most often than not an easier thing to say rather than doing it. Part of the reason for the predicament is the fact that many Christian singles are unaware of the rules for Christian dating in the first place and therefore the need to follow such rules does not prop in their mind. Besides various sects amongst Christians following different routes probably have different guidelines leaving the “Christian single” doubly confused.

 

However it is to be remembered that following Christian dating rules is not rocket science nor is it an insurmountable proposition. It is the simple good parts of daily life that we are called to exercise in our dating life and which we ignore either consciously or in ignorance. In a bid to help fellow Christians the following rules which might have been heard of before but not practiced in reality may please be noted for good measure to brighten up not only your dating experience but also your Christian life in general.

 

(1)    Keeping the faith by dating other fellow Christian singles
Dating a fellow Christian who can share your views is a much easier proposition compared to dating someone outside the community. It also helps in the fact that your faith gets stronger and the eagerness of marriage naturally follows the courtship due to the belief in the same goal and hopefully similar views on spirituality. For a non-Christian, dating a Christian it becomes difficult to understand the value system and the Christian single has to confront the prospect of handling different values while retaining the Christian faith.

 

(2)    Define your limits
In the dating spirit, emotions galore and it can be difficult to retrace from a difficult position once you have failed to control yourself. It is therefore very important to stick to your preset limits else you could be open to the lures of the world. If dating as a couple is a problem, date amongst others or groups to help mitigate the problem. Revealing clothing or scanty dressing can be a challenge for self control and the mind can easily relent to pressure. As Christians we need to exercise maximum prudence in order to self discipline ourselves in pursuit of the larger goal of keeping our minds and bodies pure for the sacrament of marriage. Also keeping the mind pure is the source of all goodness. Deny the vain pleasure of thought at the first instance in the mind to rid of the problem travelling further to result in unbearable temptation.

 

(3)    Seek the intervention  of the Lord at all times
God looks after our every need for every second of our lives. We need to believe in this basic truth and also call unto him at all times. It is often possible that we forget our maker in the good times and when we are too happy in our lives. Such a situation could arise when we find a suitable Christian single leading us to forget God. We must look up to God at all times, whether good or bad and pray to him to grant us the desired strength to overcome all situations. Because for God nothing is impossible.

 

(4)    Remain pure of body
The sin of the body is probably the toughest challenge among Christian dating rules and one can easily fall into temptations which can have far reaching consequences in life  and after. The lure of sex before marriage is a temptation which all good Christians need to overcome with all their might. Preserving yourself and your body for the day of marriage to have sex with your partner is the perfect way to a healthy and loving relationship. Seek the strength of God to help you in this endeavor

 

(5)    Enjoy your dating time
God wants you to be happy at all times and wants you to find the true joy in your dating life. So look at the positive things which God has granted to you such as a prospective partner who could share your life together with you for the rest of your life. Respect your Christian single partner and you will gain respect for yourself. Enjoy and take heart in little things that you do for each other. Converse at all times and remain true to each other by dismissing all other distractions while focusing only on your budding relationship. Get to know each other and find common ground to seal the relationship for a bond of marital bliss.

 

(6)    Go your separate ways if necessary
Despite being in the groove of Christian dating rules, if you find that the Christian single that you are dating is not the right one for you, do not hesitate to call off the relationship. It is better to do it in the initial stages when you get a distinct feeling of incompatibility with your partner. However do it in a gentle way so that the other Christian single is not offended or hurt. Be persuasive and clearly explain the reasons for the decision. Do not give excuses. Give proper reasons which actually led you to the decision. However be diplomatic in the way you do it. Your primary concern should be to ensure that the opposite Christian single is not aggrieved by your decision.

 

Hopefully these Christian dating rules will help you in your dating life both for men dating a Christian woman or for women dating a Christian man. For a non Christian dating a Christian these rules could help in understanding the values of the Christian dating partner so that there is no ambiguity regarding the behavioral pattern of the Christian partner or his/her seemingly visible obsession with purity in Christian dating.

 

Hoping all Christian singles keep themselves pure of mind and heart in their dating life and go ahead to enjoy the bounty of a successful marriage.

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Safe Online dating tips for Christians and Christian singles

Posted on August 4, 2011 by kevinz

When online dating first made its presence over the internet it was considered as a safe means of dating and there was an apparent blindness to the safety aspect when it comes to keeping oneself in control of what is happening with the dating state of affairs. Not only is it important to keep yourself away from any mental agony, it is much necessary to be wary of any physical harm which may be caused to you by succumbing to the various scams online that could potentially be a cause of distress and trouble in your peaceful life. Christian dating tips and advice is primarily meant to ensure the safety of the dating partners and is not intended for an over-reaction.

 

Having said that I must say that if done properly with discipline, there is no other dating method which can outbeat the convenience and the reach of online dating compared to conventional dating methods of the old. In this article, while I am listing online dating tips for Christians, these tips for Christian dating can also be applied to other communities and people from other walks of life to their own dating life so that it can serve to avoid potentially dangerous situations by applying these  Christian online dating tips.

 

1.    Respect and guard your own privacy
Among the most important tips for Christian dating is the need for protecting your privacy which is probably the key to safety in online dating and is an important dating tip for Christian women as well as Christian men. It is advisable to use an anonymous private email address for your online dating profile and a good practice not to divulge your phone number  in the initial stages. In fact do not part with such information until you are absolutely comfortable with the opposite Christian single to do so.

 

2.     Let your first few meeting be in Public places
It can be quite exciting to land on a date online and it is quite easy to get carried away by the lure of a quickfire meeting. However some minimum of self discipline may be advisable to ensure that you are safe, especially on your first date.
Since the association is online you hardly know the person at all. Among the most valuable Christian online dating tips is that you must understand that on your first date, it is preferable to organize the meeting in a public place where there are other people also around while the two of you meet. The people around may be strangers but atleast you can be certain that you are not meeting this unknown person in a secluded place.
Avoid going to closed places, somebody’s home or an unknown destination. In case your date tries to coax you into meeting at a secluded place or after meeting you at a pulic place tries to change over to a secluded place, don’t  hesitate to call off the date itself. A decent date would not ever encourage to get cosy so early so don’t have second thoughts about showing such a date the red flag and move on.

 

3.    Get your own conveyance
While it might sound  a bit too orthodox, it is advisable that on your first date or even first few dates you manage your own conveyance for the date rather than be picked up from any location for the date to happen. Don’t solicit a drive from your prospective Christian single dating partner. If in future you find each other compatible enough there will be plenty of opportunity to enjoy a drive. For now keep it more natural. Use your own conveyance and maintain a good balance of thought and respect.

 

4.    Receive well before giving
In normal Christian life you would be told to give before you wish to receive. However when it comes to Christian dating it is exactly the opposite. Be careful about letting out any information about yourself before you see the other person’s willingness to give out his/her own information. There are singles who seek information but are very reluctant to give out their own information. They could be hiding things for a good reason or they could also have dishonest reasons and might be even married earlier or have other related issues. So before you divulge information, try to get a sense of comfort about the other Christian singles’ own information.

 

5.    Sudden change in plan is an alarm bell
Very often genuine concerns during a date may warrant a change of plans and that is often an innocent turn to events. However his does not happen very often. There is always that lurking possibility of some other vested interests at play. Your only option here is to be aware and take a guarded decision. Do not over-react but do not be lured by the change of plan. Rather excuse yourself and be open about  a next date. However being observant about behavioral patterns is the key to safety.

 

6.    Do not be led by dating baits
This is a predicament faced more by Christian single men than Christian single women . Therefore this is more important among the dating tips for Christian men. However it is important for both the sexes to be aware of this. Often , many people will create fake profiles on the internet with images of beautiful women under  pretension of being interested in men. Often these tricks are a means to direct you to another website for more wild images or some erotic information about a date. Christian singles need to be closely guarded about such attempts and immediately exit the site. Beside the spiritual disturbance that such sites may cause to you, you are also more likely to infect your computer with viruses and often be lured by the website to part away with some of your financial details such as credit card number etc. it is better to exit such sites the moment you get a sense of such a deviation.

 

7.    Avoid the mail order bride hype
The mail order brides are more often than not, Ponzi schemes meant  to extract your money and leave you poorer. These bride scams are all about snapshot marriages and very often about some lonely girl or lonely man with an ambition to migrate to another prosperous country with the mail order brainwave.
Whatever be their excuse, you are often left clueless at the end of it all and certainly with someone relieving you of some of your money. Some often take the issue as far as marriage and then the dumping. So avoid it at all costs.

 

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Christian internet dating

Posted on July 6, 2011 by kevinz

Christian dating is considered a specific area of dating by Christians and the tendency is to look for Christians on the internet in order to make a match of it. One of the prime reason to seek a Christian dating partner is the fact that the comfort levels of the partners dating is much more since the faith of both the dating people is Christian and values of the faith being well defined it becomes easier to have the backdrop of christian living as a precursor to the relationship.

 

While some may insist that Christians are not needed to be specifically seeking Christian partners, it is undeniable that the teachings of Christianity give life serving wisdom to Christians seldom found in other faiths. Christianity is a way of life and the teachings in the Bible ably reflect the thoughts of God which makes it easier for Christians to live according to the written word which is so generously given to us.

 

Dating among Christians is therefore expected to be a more fruitful exercise consciously aimed at the sacrament of Marriage rather than mere fun. Meanwhile, Christian dating has in recent times found great favour in the community to ensure that Christians remain within the faith while ensuring that the norms of conduct are kept alive when on a date with a Christian partner. The method of finding a suitable partner has also been facilitated and made easier thanks to the various Christian dating sites available on the internet which specifically cater to Christians all over the world. Before the advent of the internet, there was excessive reliability on local matchmakers and matrimonial advertisements which provided little insight into the life and style of the Christian partner. In fact in the good old days the word ‘profile’ was given little conscious attention while a christian matchmaking was in progress .

 

However the dynamics of dating changed immensely thanks to the internet which opened new windows to Christian dating services and made the whole process simpler and hassle free. One can now easily get to know about a christian date across the high seas and across continents. The world has indeed become smaller for a a Christian who can now find his or her partner easily across the globe.

 

In fact Christian internet dating is something of an alternative to conventionally going out and meeting people from the community. It is often difficult to meet others who share in similar thoughts and values and unless such meetings take place in a Christian place like a Church, the chance s of meeting a fellow christian dating partner is pretty thin.

 

God knows us completely well and is seeking the best for our welfare. He knows which Christians make better partners and he can therefore use Christian internet dating according to his plan to forge a meeting between various Christians from all over the world in order to set up beautiful and happy families.

 

When it comes to Christian dating internet services,  they are available across a wide spectrum for various age groups and across the interests ranging from mature people to young Christian singles. Even if you are a senior, or a widow or a widower, the need for a companion is always felt in every Christians life which has made many of these prospects to turn to Christian internet dating sites to help find that potential Christian date.

 

These sites make the process of finding that special person in your life, relatively easier and the ease of putting your profile up on the internet is also made easier by various free Christian internet dating sites( click here for some of such sites) which do not charge upfront to list out your christian dating profile for the dating world to read. Also this process takes away the worry of looking good or being physically attractive as there are many Christian daters who would also be looking for a god fearing and quality individual and upon seeing the good qualities , would narrow down to the right partner.Also the scope of getting a suitable Christian partner based on your intellect is also a great possibility.

 

Christian internet dating has therefore changed the way the world goes about dating  and anyone with good morals and principles founded on the Bible and God’s love can use these websites to meet other Christian prospects . It is however very important to pray to God and seek his help to direct you to the right person while connecting to someone in the virtual world of Christian internet dating.

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Christian singles dating it right

Posted on July 2, 2011 by kevinz

In the world of online dating, you are free to make a choice of discernment about your conduct and like all things of life online dating for Christian singles also involves some dos and don’ts when it comes to meeting Christian singles of the opposite sex.

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While it is natural for some to share the same religious viewpoints as your fellow daters, it should not inspire you to put extra stuff into your profile to make your personality and to show your interests differently from what you actually are.

 

There is a Christian dating site for everyone. If you want specific singles dating sites to narrow down your search you can choose the one you want. So from Black Christian singles dating to Asian dating sites and country specific dating sites are available. Whenever you decide to join a specialist Christian dating site among the various Christian singles dating sites the next thing is to obviously write something about yourself for other prospective daters to read and decide whether you are the Christian single that they are may be looking for. One of the important guideline to follow is to show a positive disposition in your Christian dating profile. Negativity distances people away and if you are negative in your approach you should first try to generate a positive attitude about life before attempting your profile or even before you attempt to write something positive. Positive attitude is a friend. Being negative does not help anyone.

 

Sounding a bit upbeat about yourself is also an attractive trait. Friendliness is also well observed from your profile and your description about yourself should sound pleasant and friendly which gives an approachability feeling about you. If you need some guideline in writing a profile, it is advisable to browse around to get a fair idea of how other Christian singles dating prospects are presenting themselves. However be realistic about what you write about you being a Christian date. There is no point in copying or spinning somebody else’s profile as it may not match yours and mere attraction to somebody’s way of writing will not help. You need to fine tune your Christian dating profile to be closer to your own personality.

 

Naturally writing is only half the job done. Every Christian single looking for a date or a life time partner, wants to know what you look like and a photograph becomes a necessity in the quick modern age. It is an instant flash of what you look, to the Christian single reading your profile in some part of the world. Here, you need to be as simple and honest in your photograph and there is no point in lying about your appearance as your potential Christian partner is bound to know the real you in good time whenever you decide to meet up. It is better to choose lively and vibrant pictures preferably outdoor pictures which have natural light. It is to be noted here that photographs don’t play a role in the long run as the dating partners get to know each other better. However it is always safe to give a fair picture of yourself so that the Christian partner who decides about the date does not feel betrayed by a false picture which may have been the foundation of the relationship.

 

Also do not ever forget to add some information about your faith and your religion. Are you a christian by birth? Which church services do you attend? Are you involved in some work with the parish? Such info gives you plenty to converse about, whenever you do find your life mate.

 

Often people want to know answers to the question “What will you get out of Christian dating?” Well the answer is even if you do not happen to meet the right partner among the Christian dating singles that you interact with, it is still a golden opportunity to make new friends among the Christian singles and you could even end up meeting Christian singles dating in your local area . So while you still look out for your Christian partner for life, you should learn to take life as it comes and remember that there are no certainties or guarantees in everything of life and love is no different. However there is nothing to stop you from seeking a Christian single through Christian singles dating sites which offer a world of opportunity to meet Christian dating singles from all over the world thereby increasing your chances and prospects .

 

Heres’ to a good experience in Christian singles dating for free.

 

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Christian dating advice and guidelines

Posted on June 30, 2011 by kevinz

All Christians are called to be friends first in their outlook and dating is also a part of such a friendship. However dating is ideally a platform to build a healthy relationship between a man and a woman and while there may be all advice  and dating sites available on the internet about dating in the world today but christian dating is a topic often ignored by Christians.Christian dating guidelines are therefore a key for a Christian before considering the prospect of  dating.

 

Christians are expected to have a change in attitude towards dating compared to conventional thought processes. It has to be admitted however that the same is not being consciously felt among Christians and there are differences of opinions when it comes to absorbing any christian dating single advice. While parents can provide the basic principles of life to their children, as Christian teens and Christian adolescents, it is important to know God’s thoughts on dating.

 

For non-Christians it is a more daunting challenge to have control on their urges and emotions. As such the perspective on dating is often a challenging one of self-restraint rather than based on Christian advice. The various TV reality shows, modern movie culture, overt magazines, the explosive internet and other such media excites modern youth to think and believe that dating before getting married is fine.

 

Also the various role models in the field of sports and movies churning out their infidelities and multiple relationships is certainly not helping the inspiration in modern times. However it is to be remembered that God has plenty in store for everyone of us than merely changing our relationship partners. His message in the word is clear on whom you should date and what your reason of dating should be. As such when it comes to Christian advice on dating, it may be said that you are expected to live according to a different standard altogether – the standard that God has set before us. Yet it may not be just about following the rules. There are some very good reasons why God instructs mankind to live a certain way of life , and the event of dating is no different in that sense.

 

What do Christian singles and Christian teens need to know about dating ?

Opinions on this may differ with different people. However in this area, the Bible provides a lot of information. Christian teens are lucky that God has provided us with an idea of his expectations which are clearly evident from specific scripture verses, some of which are as under:

 

In the book of Genesis God says

Genesis 2:24: “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.” (NIV)

 

Further in the book of proverbs we read

Proverbs 4:23: “Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.” (NIV)

 

In Pauls letter to the Corinthians we hear about what Love actually is as follows

1 Corinthians 13:4-7: “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” (NIV)

 

These three verses from the scriptures give a clear vision into what the Christian dating life should be. It is the best christian dating relationship advice that we could get to keep ourselves in good check. We need to accept and realize that God expects of us to be people desirous to meet that ONE special person that we are intending to marry. Reference to the book of Genesis tells us that , a man will leave home to marry one woman to become one in flesh. It is therefore clear that you do not need to date a lot of people in this world– just the right one to set up your family.

 

Also, young Christian singles need to keep their hearts in check. The emotion of Love is being handled very insensitively and is being abused with little regard. However all of us crave for Love. We must therefore strive to first keep upto God’s love – it should be our topmost priority, and then we should also live for the love of others.

 

While there may be many interpretations of love, the verses in 1Corinthians tell us how God so beautifully and so completely defines the delight of the emotion of love.Therefore it is love that should be the source of all inspiration for Christian singles and Christian teens for the interest of dating.

 

It should however be a deep seated love feeling and not merely a superficially passing phase . Your date should be taken with all seriousness as your path of marriage and you should endeavor to know well about the person you are dating with a healthy interaction, while keeping worldly temptations in check.

 

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Christian Dating Tips for Men on first date

Posted on May 25, 2011 by kevinz

Christian dating has come as a result of the need to find a christian soul mate among Christians all over the world. This need has translated into a quest to look for a suitable partner who carries with him or her, Christian values, thoughts and ideals which reflect good Christian upbringing.

 

 

It is therefore important for Christians to understand that values of Christianity are very important to conduct ourselves in this world and our behaviour surely reflects our values. Therefore in order to conduct ourselves within universally pleasant norms it is important to note some Christian dating tips for men.

 

 

In this section we are going to deal with  dating tips for  Christian men and after going through these points, men can reflect on how important it is to understand, appreciate and respect the value system when it comes to Christian dating.

 

 

1. Firstly as a Christian you should be proud of your faith and your beliefs in Christianity and should never show any reluctance to professing your religion especially if your date is a non-christian. Have the passion to announce your faith without any hesitation. This clarifies to your date that you are clear about your Christian roots and provides the necessary information about the outline of your upbringing to a certain extent. both of you are entitled to know this information about each other preferably on your first date.

 

 

2. God has called on us to respect each other and as such we must learn to give due honour and kindness to our dating partner. Women need to be showered with the virtues of gentleness, self-control and patience which shows them that you have a considerate heart.

 

 

3. As a man with Christian virtues,  we are not expected to pressurise a woman to move swiftly when we are actually developing a relationship . Give her the respect due to her, to move to the next step at a honest pace. If she decides to slow down or seeks time,  grant it to her. Pushing a woman does not augur well for a Christian man’s behavior.

 

 

4. Among the dating tips for Christian men this may be most known but carelessly followed.When on a date, ensure that you present yourself well. It is necessary for Christian men to understand that they need to groom themselves well. Fingernails trimmed, stubble shaved, nose hair pruned, scalp hair well cut and well combed, gargle and rinse to avoid bad breath – even some mint is advisable here,s pray some cologne, Wear pleasant colours and freshly washed and well ironed clothing . In short make sure that you do not have any irritants in your Christian personality that could impede your dating.

 

 

5. Among the most valuable christian online dating tips, ensure that you don’t pursue dating for the sake of sexual satisfaction and don’t carry the sin of lust in your mind either while chatting online or while dating. Such an approach is doomed from the beginning. In fact on your first date ensure that you don’t even touch your dating partner. There is no need to show overt actions to be warm. Words are more appropriate to describe your qualities on your first date.

 

 

6. One of the good tips for Christian dating is obviously honesty and therefore it is necessary for you to give your true details to the Christian woman you are dating. Give your real contact information, email, contact number address etc.

 

 

7. If a dating partner or a Christian woman you are dating, expresses lack of interest in the date, then you have to be able to digest a “no”. Do not force yourself upon her. It will never work. Have the courage to comprehend failures.

 

 

8. Your first date would most preferably be in a public place where there are people around. this makes the Christian woman more comfortable and in peace to date. The whole meeting should be casual and a short introductory affair. This helps if the date is not compatible to both and the drift becomes more easier.

 

 

9. One of the important Christian online dating tips is about politeness with the opposite Christian date online. Courtesy demands that you respond to every woman who responds to your dating profile even if you may not be actually interested in the prospect of dating the person. You could use a standard response like  “Hey, thanks for taking the time to write. However I don’t think we may be a good match. may God bless you”. Decline politely by responding to them and spreading a message of goodwill at the same time.

 

 

 

May your dating experience be a fruitful one and may these Christian dating tips assist you in a good date blessed by the love of God.

 

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Single Christian Men Dating

Posted on May 14, 2011 by kevinz

The world of Christian dating singles is a world  of immense wonder and suspense when it comes to eventually getting that special Christian singles partner who could  turn around their life. Often it is very difficult to get the partner that you are seeking in all your efforts in day to day exchanges with people. From church to the choir, to the parish and over the workplace and in friends and family circles, it can be daunting to find that one Christian single whom you are waiting for. Christiandatinginfo.com seeks to intervene in this void and make your life full by providing the opportunity to meet many christian singles to broaden your choice.

 

For single Christian men  dating can be quite a daunting experience if not addressed properly. The pain of discouragement due to a failed relationship in some cases can be hard to absorb for many Christian single men. However this should be overcome by the fact that every christian single is called to live by Christian values and if one keeps upto christian values of life, the day is indeed not far when a suitable Christian single partner would be on the horizon.

 

Women are also looking for the right single christian men to make up their lives. However Christian women tend to be more discreet and do not express as freely as men do. The opportunities for Christian women singles to meet single christian men are unlimited but untapped and can therefore be a dampener in the search for the right Christian singles partner.

 

The question of where to meet single Christian men is therefore a valid question for many women who have the need for  a suitable Christian partner in their life but do not have the presence of mind to look for him. It is important to understand that we all interact with people in our daily life and that includes people of the opposite sex.  Therefore areas of workplaces, commuting stations, social outings, church services etc should be considered as ideal opportunities for women to keep a note of Christian single men who they might be having an interest in. However breaking the ice in striking a conversation with such prospective single Christian men in such daily situations also potentially an uncomfortable situation and can be quite challenging for many christian women.

 

As such the Christian dating sites  come as an ideal faces saver  and can be a tactful method for a christian woman to find her partner without the hassle of wondering how to meet christian single men, as various profiles are available on such sites thereby removing the discomfort of striking a conversation with a stranger and at the same time being able to get information about him at the fingertips.

 

Meeting single Christian men is therefore not such a difficult proposition anymore and Christian women should use this God send opportunity. However it is important to first know the christian man well through email and chat and even on telephone and only after getting the confidence about a date should a Christian woman consider dating the Christian single man.

 

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