Dating Tips

To make your dating experience a truly rewarding one we have compiled a few tips which we hope will help you to apply at various times.

Tips for your first date:

(1) Be creative and enterprising. Take a little time to think it through. A three-hour date with a movie that lasts two and a half-hours is not a good way to get acquainted. Then again, you don’t want to be stuck staring at each other without a topic of conversation. A daytime meeting takes the heat off.

(2) Lunch or coffee is a good start. Even better – a trip to the zoo. Plenty of topics for discussion without having to deal with issues like: “What happened to your last relationship?” And you can avoid the usual casual chit-chat like: “My wife is still missing.” “I met my first boyfriend on the prison bus.” etc etc.

(3) Clothing :Clothing is not optional. Wear clothes that make you feel good. New clothes always help – but if not new, be sure they’re clean, pressed, and fit well – or if that’s not your style – be sure they fit whatever way makes you feel the most comfortable and still look presentable.

(4) Start a conversation: Make the first move: Move closer to the person you want to meet. Say hello! The best opening line is saying hello. Talk about the surroundings, ask a question, ask for help, state an opinion. Use props: Never leave home without a prop. Props are natural conversation starters. They encourage conversation and others will be compelled to start talking to you. Great props include: dogs, kids, unusual jewelry, a fabulous scent, a sweatshirt with your favorite passion, interesting ties, hats, or an interesting book or newspaper.

(5) Help the Other Person Feel Comfortable. Be the host: Change your behavior from the role of guest to host. You are not the passive person in waiting, but rather the welcome committee. Find something nice about your date and compliment her or him.
But mean it. Don’t just say, “Nice shoes, Linda.” “Swell belt, Greg.”
Find something nice. If it’s painfully difficult to come up with something that you sincerely like about the person, you shouldn’t be out with them in the first place.

(6) Listen: You have two ears and one mouth because you should listen twice as much as you speak. Listening is a true art. Your dating partner will be drawn to you. Everyone loves to be heard.
Listen actively to what your date says. Don’t interrupt. While your date is talking, don’t spend time thinking about what you’re going to say when it’s your turn.

(7) Manners and/or Kindness: Thank the other person for the date – always, without exception. Good manners are still in style. Well, not necessarily good manners – but common sense.
Human kindness. That sort of thing is always in style.
Focus on the Other Person – pay attention to your date. No wandering eyes. No preoccupation with old relationships, work, bank robberies. Be THERE.
Attitudes and Habits – stay positive.
Don’t complain on a first date.
Be cautious about alcohol – if you drink heavily, you’re not going to be at your best.

(8) Eye contact: Make eye contact, but please look your partner in the eye gently (no more than 2-4 seconds) and then glance away. Don’t stare – it’s a turn off.

(9) Compliment: Compliment your partner. The best compliments have the element of surprise. The “flirtee” will know that you really noticed them. Remember, your compliments must be honest, sincere and genuine. When you receive a compliment the best response is merely, Thank You!

(10) Smile: It is contagious. It will make you so much more approachable. A smile lights up your face and draws people to you. You will be a people magnet.

(11) Have fun: Be playful, lighthearted and spontaneous. Show your vulnerability.

Try it with a little bit of your own. Remember every person and situation is different!!

 

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